Last night at a Xmas party I was talking to my friends about a seminar they went to where you work through your stuff by confronting it head on. I was interested to find out how it worked. One exercise was that you had to ring 3 people one night, no matter what time, to resolve unresolved issues that you have had with them previously. I thought about the book ‘Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway' by Susan Jefferies, which I had read back in the 90's. No sweat compared to this exercise. I would find it very difficult to ring someone in the wee hours of the morning, let alone confront them with my issues.
For me I feel it doesn't need to be confrontational with others to work out one's stuff. Besides the ‘Way of the Heart' teachings show us that conflict with others is really a mirror of what's happening inside ourselves. Where is the Love and Compassion in using this exercise at 2am in the morning? Do we really need to confront others to resolve our own issues?
But this exercise got me thinking. In fact I had a couple of people in my life that I had not worked out my issues with. So how would Theta Healing help resolve or deal with unresolved issues? Did I have to ring up my friends at 2am in the morning to say I wished to forgive them, and say that I loved them? My friends may not consider me to be very compassionate or loving when they are woken up in the wee hours of the morning. Not to forget the deeper issues of Fear within me screaming at me not to even pick up the phone. Is that how it works? Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway? After this enlightening conversation, I went home to sleep. Before I turned in I did my usual meditation and Theta Healing grounding exercise.
At the time I had a rash on my back that was irritating me. I looked it up in a book about metaphysical causes of illness. One comment suggested asking the question; ‘Who or what was I irritated at?' That certainly reflects the thoughts and conversation I had earlier that night.
Another question that stood out for me was: ‘What am I frustrated by…?' Is that why I can't resolve my issues with these significant others because they irritate me and I am frustrated by my relationship with them? (Oops! I better change that one! And I did!)
During the Theta Healing I saw a wide beam of white light pass up through my back. I also felt a release from the burdens involving those significant others. My conflict was washed away without having to confront these friends. Instead I felt free from the attachment to the issues they had previously mirrored. I awoke the next morning conflict free, and saw myself being able to joyfully embrace that person without getting upset or anxious.
I no longer had an attachment to the situation or issue, regarding that person. Isn't that exciting and empowering!? Now that's what Theta Healing is about! Resolving past issues with another by taking responsibility for my own feelings and resolving them helps release the attachment of it all.
It is not the fear of confrontation that scares me but dealing with issues this way is more empowering to me. Life's issues just melt away and I become clearer and peaceful having let go of the conflict. To me confrontation may empower one to overcome obstacles and fears, but what about the trauma one may inflict on others in the process. Does confrontation resolve deep unconscious beliefs? Or does the recipient feel empowered in the name of asserting one's ego? I believe our life experience is to become more spiritually enlightened. Theta Healing for me is a technique that has helped me awaken my spirituality and resolve conflicts peacefully with interpersonal relationships.
As the old saying goes ‘Tread softly'
David
New Year Resolutions
On New Year's Eve I decided to do something different to bring in the New Year. I decided to attend a meditation, rather than party away 2007 with friends. The Meditation was held at the Harmony Body Mind Healing Centre at Nerang and was facilitated by the owners Hermann and Marie. I also did their meditation on Xmas Eve, which was a full moon as well. One part of the meditation involved an exercise to write down all the things I wanted to achieve this year.
Resolutions are considered a bit of a joke in our modern society as most people never carry them out. How many times have you heard someone say they are going to stop smoking or something else in their life, but they never make it past the first day before they break their resolution?
Is it because of a lack of will power, or discipline, or are they really committed to changing their life?
The old joke comes to mind. ‘How many psychiatrists does it take to change a light bulb? 100? No, only one but the light bulb really has to want to change'.
My New Year's resolution for this year in a word is ‘Discipline'.
I want to be more committed to my goals this year. And to achieve what I want, I need to have more discipline in my life. Discipline: to meditate more, to complete unfinished jobs, to switch off the TV at night so I can attend to other things like reading a book.
The intention is there, but how often do we procrastinate or sabotage our selves. I have read many books and done lots of courses on personal development and goal setting. But how many times have we achieved our goals, even though we have written them down and planned dates with good intentions to follow up on them. I often get emails inviting me to learn about the 7 steps to being a successful millionaire. It's all there in black and white.
And then there are the success stories. Like the other night on TV they reported about 3 successful women, who left their previous jobs to focus on new self made careers, and are now earning more than their husbands. Fantastic!!!
But what about me slogging away 40 + hours a week! Don't take me wrong, I love what I am doing, but do I still believe that the only way to make money is through hard work?
How often do you hear the saying ‘Life is not meant to be easy'?
Why do 75% of small bus ines ses fail within the first few years?
Through Theta Healing I have learned that negative beliefs hidden in our unconscious can often block or sabotage us from achieving our goals. It can be as simple as a fear that stops us from doing something or a core belief that we are not good enough. Possibly a resentment or regret from the past could stop the flow of our creativity.
Imagine being free of worry and stress about achieving your goals. Stress takes up a lot of energy, which could be used more productively. If only we release our limiting beliefs and fears associated with achieving our goals, then our ambitions are more likely to succeed.
The process of dealing with these blocks and limiting beliefs has been easier for me with using the techniques from Theta Healing. I remember a session I had with one of my instructors. I was asked the question ‘If money was no object what would I want to achieve in my life'. The process took me back to a deep memory where I felt fear. That emotion was limiting me from achieving my goals. I was able to release this fear and move on. Since that time I have felt more energised and feel like I have had a burden lifted off my shoulders.
In life we often attract to ourselves what we need to learn the most. If we fear failure, then we are likely to attract that into our lives and sabotage our achievements. Such beliefs may be found on a conscious level and can be heard through what we say. For example the phrase ‘I'll try to get around to that' or ‘I hope to …' sets us up for failure straight away by giving us an excuse to put off that plan. Language we use in our daily life reflects our beliefs about ourselves. When something doesn't go our way, it reinforces our beliefs, both conscious and unconsciously.
So are you sabotaging your resolutions?
My resolution of ‘ discipline' will bring up excuses to put aside or delay my commitment to my endeavours. I trust that I will be aware enough to realise what is happening so I can change my old habits and continue with my commitment. The true road to success is awareness of old patterns and to respond by releasing limiting beliefs and fears so one can more forward freely in life.
Think upon the Buddhist saying;
‘To discover New Oceans, have Courage to leave the Shore'
Tread softly
David
